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Six signs he's the cheating kind

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YOU have a sneaking feeling that something about your relationship just isn’t right. He’s been acting distant, moody, or even too nice. You don’t want to go there but your mind just can’t help it – could he be cheating?

No one likes to think that they’re involved with a cheater, but it happens pretty frequently. According to a survey conducted by the University of Chicago, 22% of married men and 15% of married women admitted to having been unfaithful at least once.

Think he’s having an affair? These 6 clues may help you determine whether or not he’s being unfaithful.


1) He’s convinced you’re a cheater


Some people are more suspicious than others, but if your mate is suddenly accusing you of being unfaithful, it’s likely he’s cheating. Why? Because now that he’s cheating he knows it’s possible for you to do the same (and get away with it).
So if you're normally healthy and happy mate is suddenly overwrought with unjustified jealously, watch out. It could be that he’s really the one cheating on you.

2) He’s a little too mysterious

Mystery is a big draw in a new relationship. It’s exciting to be with someone new; someone you don’t know that well. Discovering who that person is and what they’re all about is part of what makes new love so thrilling.

But if you’re months or even years into the relationship and your mate is extremely vague about his past, work, friends, family – or just plain everything – beware. It could be that he’s distancing himself from you emotionally subconsciously, or he’s consciously withholding information to prevent getting caught in a lie. Either way, he’s covering something up.

3) He knows a lot of women…and makes friends with them easily

Ever date a guy who talked to every woman he laid eyes on? You know the type: you’d leave him for five minutes a party and return to find him flirting with another woman. Or there’s the guy who knows a lot of women and happens to run into them all the time. Kind of makes you stop and think. Or at least it should.

A guy who has a lot of girl friends or seems to know every woman within a 50 mile radius should be handled with extreme caution. Now, a ladies man isn’t necessarily a cheater, but you should consider whether or not you can handle the constant competition.

4) He seems to be compensating

If a cheater has even half a heart, he feels guilty for cheating. To compensate for the guilt, he acts extra nice. Think lots of “I love yous," flowers, and presents for no reason.

We’re not suggesting that every time a man does something nice it’s a sign he’s cheating on you, but if suspicious behavior is immediately followed by a syrupy sweet gesture, that’s a red flag. Not only is he trying to ease his conscience, he’s trying to distract you into thinking everything is okay.

5) He’s always at work

When people think of the typical cheater, they probably think of the guy who puts in long hours at the office but is really carrying on an affair. Well there’s a reason why that stereotype exists.

Cheaters use work to cover up their infidelity because people don’t usually question it. It’s the perfect excuse come home late, go away on business and put in extra hours on the weekend.

Just because your mate works non-stop definitely does not make him a cheater, but like we said, work can be used as an excuse. If he’s working all the time and doesn’t seem to have any energy left for your relationship, something needs to change.

6) Your friends drop hints

There are few constants when it comes to love and relationships, but there is one thing you can count on: your friends. You may not want to hear what they’re saying about the person you love, but they are usually right.

So if your friends are dropping hints, “Don’t you think it’s weird he works all the time?” or “What’s up with him and his ex?” stop and listen. Dealing with a cheater for a mate is undeniably difficult, but if you have friends who care about you enough to point it out, you can overcome anything.


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