Valentine's not all wine and roses
RELATIONSHIPS of any nature should be celebrated on Valentine's Day.
As the annual day of romance kicks into gear, mountains of roses, chocolates and cards will exchange trembling hands, but for many the day will inspire anxiety, indifference or appreciation for anyone they love.
Southern Cross University mental health nursing lecturer Jan Barling said special days of the year inspired memories and emotions both pleasurable and painful.
“With young, adolescent people it might make them anxious about it if they have friends who are in relationships,” Ms Barling said.
“Or it could bring up the depression and anxiety involved with loss of a loved one through whatever means.”
Tweed schoolgirls Khanel Karauti and Angelica Heighway said it was important to share Valentine's Day with anyone you cared about, even if not romantically.
“Sometimes I'll think about the fact that I'm single on Valentine's Day, but it doesn't really bother me,” Khanel said.
Angelica said there was a special element to Valentine's Day and, though it was important not to dwell on it, it was better not to be single on the day.
“If you weren't single the day would be more fun,” she said.
“It's a bit of a commercial exercise really because people tend to spend money on roses and chocolates and so on.”
Ms Barling said the commercialism of the day showed how much we were influenced by our culture.
“You need someone who can put it in perspective, that it's just another day,” she said. “The key is to look to the future as things tend to change in life, whether positively or negatively.”